Hen Party Do’s and Don’ts

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If you’re looking for a guide to planning a hen do, then look no further! First of all check out this Hen Party checklist to make sure you’ve got everything covered. Then, make sure you follow my Hen Party Do’s and Don’ts to avoid any problems on the night; I’ve also slipped in a few ideas to make sure the Hen Do goes with a bang!

DO cater the night to the hen’s tastes, not your own. Ask her what it is that she’d really like to do and listen to what she doest want to do. Of course a few surprises along the way are what make the night unique, so DON’T shy away from them.

DO be organised and plan for every eventuality. Normally, hen parties have 10 or more guests so book whatever you’re planning well in advance to avoid disappointment, but DON’T be afraid of a bit of spontaneity on the night!

DO make sure to budget. Not everyone will be rolling in dosh so ensure that all of the guest can afford whatever you’re planning, but DON’T scrimp too much; it’s the bride’s big day and you want it to be special.

DO get the girls to pay upfront. This way you’ll avoid any awkwardness on the night; it’s no fun nagging for money at the same time as slipping five pound notes into the stripper’s g-string! DON’T be afraid of getting in a round of drinks!

DO make sure the venues are appropriate. If your girls fancy a night in a crowded bar, it might be an idea to have a pre-party at someone’s house so they can catch up and meet each other properly first (not all hen party guests will know each other before hand). DON’T overcomplicate things with multiple venues; stick to 2 or 3 well chosen places rather than a mammoth pub crawl. For my taste, simple weekends work well; something like hiring a lovely apartment in a beautiful area and planning lots of activities to keep everyone entertained.

DO have plenty of Hen Party games up your sleeve. Nothing keeps the party sizzling better than a few funny activities. DON’T stick too rigidly to the plan. Nobody wants Monica from Friends planning the do. Be prepared but open to suggestions.

DO keep supplies at hand for the morning after (paracetamol etc) and DON’T let the bride do anything too embarrassing on the evening of her Hen Do (like snog lots of men who aren’t her husband-to-be).

DO  get yourself to Ann Summers beforehand and buy a bag of goodies for the bride-to-be. It’s really the only appropriate time to give these type of items as gifts! DON’T try and gain access to a classy bar if the bride is wearing a condom-covered veil.

DO resist telling the bride’s mother about the hen’s sexual exploits and DON’T take too many photos of the girlies ‘enjoying’ the male stripper (Facebook doesn’t forgive).

DO throw yourself into the hen night dares. If you are dared to sing Like a Virgin on the karaoke whilst dancing a jig, go for it and do it with gusto. DON’T drink too many cocktails too early on in the evening; you don’t want to be curled up in the club toilets by 9pm!

Finally, DO keep the details of the Hen Night secret. What happens on a hen, stays on a hen!

Happy Henning all my girlies,

Gaynor x

About the author

Hiya. I’m Gaynor – Hen Party planner extraordinaire.

A few years ago my best mate Sally asked me to be her bridesmaid. With that came the responsibility of organising the Hen Do which was an exciting but slightly daunting prospect. I had a reputation as a bit of a party girl so the expectations were high. The challenge was the budget – there wasn’t one! But with a bit of improvisation and a lot of imagination I managed to pull it off.

The success of the night was mainly due to the unique and fun Hen Party Games I’d organised to get everyone interacting and laughing. On this site I’ll share some of the best ones I’ve discovered over the years.

Enjoy x

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