How To Come Up With A Great Theme, Activities and Games For A Hen Party

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When you are planning a Hen Party for a lucky lady who is getting married, the more personal you can make it the better. As you are probably very close with the bride-to-be you should know a lot about her.

Here’s a little system I use to find inspiration for themes, activities and games for a Hen Party. This way the Hen Do will be really special and unforgettable for the girl in question as it’s catered exactly to her tastes.

Starting Point

Start off by asking yourself what kind of personality she has.

If she’s a fairly shy reserved lady, there might be little to gain in arranging a pole dancing class. If she’s an outdoorsy adventurer, her idea of hell would probably be afternoon tea at the Ritz.

Then make a list of her:

  • Passions 
  • Goals or Ambitions
  • Achievements to Date

From there you can break these categories down further and use the answers as inspiration for themes, games and activities for the Hen Party.


Possible questions to ask yourself are:

What is her favourite movie?

If she is crazy about a particular movie there are several ways to incorporate it into the night’s proceedings.

If her favourite movie is Grease for example, why not make or buy Pink Ladies outfits for all the girls to where? You could consider hiring a choreographer to teach you a dance routine to the Hand-Jive or Greased Lightning as a Hen Party activity or maybe even book a Grease tribute act.

If those ideas feel a bit too much, how about a pre-arranged karaoke performance of Summer Nights or a quiz with an entire section devoted to the movie.

What is her favourite song?

You and the other hens could rehearse and perform your own special rendition of her favourite song on the night as a treat. I’ve seen people go all out with this, incorporating costumes, dance routines, lighting and even harmonising!

If the song has a really clear story and setting you can base a whole theme around it: I recently organised an entire Hen Night around Barry Manilow’s Copacabana!

Who is her favourite pop-star/band?

You probably won’t be able to afford to hire the real Robbie Williams, but there are some brilliant tribute acts out there that can provide top-notch entertainment for your Hen Do.

There’s also a great Hen Party Game called Who Am I? that can easily include the bride’s favourite celebs.

What does she love to do in her spare time?

Now obviously if she does an Aerobics class three times a week you’ll probably want to steer clear of taking her to a gym for her Hen Party. However, you can often draw great inspiration from her hobbies and take them a step further.

If she loves having a facial or a massage, then a luxury spa might be a perfect destination. If she loves dancing then how about a salsa class? She loves being in the kitchen? How about a day at a Cordon Bleu cookery school?


Is there a place she’s always dreamed of going?

If it’s in the budget, by all means take her to the Caribbean? If not, bring the Caribbean to her. A Hen Night with a strong theme based in culture can be great fun and influence the choice of venue, music, food and drink and entertainment.

If she’s always loved Spain, take her to a Tapas bar and hire a Flamenco band!

Is there something she’s always wanted to do?

Does she yearn to be the next Erin Brogue from Strictly Come Dancing. How about a tango class or an hour of learning how to waltz with a ballroom champion.

Has she always wanted the sky-dive? There are some wonderful inexpensive adrenalin filled alternatives out there if the real thing is too pricey.

Is there an event she’s always wanted to attend?

If she’s spoken non-stop about going to Glastonbury over the years but never actually bitten the bullet, look into local similar music festivals or take a trip. You don’t need to rough it in a tent nowadays – there is plenty of high end accommodation available too.

Is there someone she’s always wanted to meet?

Again, you might not be able to get the real Barrack O’Bama to make the journey to Clacton-on-sea but how about hiring a look-a-like for a but of a laugh? You can even hire strippers who look like certain celebs: who wouldn’t want a bit of naked David Beckham at their Hen Do?

Achievements to Date

What are the milestones so far in her life?

You can put together a bit of a timeline and spend an hour at the beginning of the night doing ‘This Is Your Single Life’ or ‘This Id Your Life…So Far’, based on the TV favourite ‘This Is Your Life’. I think this is a wonderful way of introducing guests too. ‘Remember when you were five and you met your future best friend Emma? Well here she is and she’s brought along the Barbie you bought her few her 8th birthday.’ You could even recreate moments from past glories. Did she get an A at GCSE German – ask her to translate a sentence for a bit of fun. Was she regional tap-dance champion – play the music she used and ask her to re-create the moment! These are great for funny little surprises and let’s face it a bit of embarrassment on your Hen Do is inevitable!

Another way of using her life is to quiz the guests to see who knows the most about the bride-to-be.

Use your imagination and go to town!

For more specific Hen Party Games check out my recent posts on Fabulous Hen Party Games To Play Round The Dinner Table and Top 3 Hen Party Games To Play At A Bar Or Club.

OK girlies Happy Henning!

Gaynor x


About the author

Hiya. I’m Gaynor – Hen Party planner extraordinaire.

A few years ago my best mate Sally asked me to be her bridesmaid. With that came the responsibility of organising the Hen Do which was an exciting but slightly daunting prospect. I had a reputation as a bit of a party girl so the expectations were high. The challenge was the budget – there wasn’t one! But with a bit of improvisation and a lot of imagination I managed to pull it off.

The success of the night was mainly due to the unique and fun Hen Party Games I’d organised to get everyone interacting and laughing. On this site I’ll share some of the best ones I’ve discovered over the years.

Enjoy x

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