How to do a Bachelorette Party

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OK, so your best friend is getting married and has asked you to be her maid of honor – how exciting! But once the excitement passes, the dread creeps in….she’s expecting you to organize a bachelorette party. And it’s going to have to be good. You have no clue how to do a bachelorette party, so where do you start?

Right, no need to panic. It’s not as hard to plan a bachelorette party (or hen party as we brits call it) as you might think. You need to start with a guest list and from there you can work out the location and the date. These are the most important things! Once you have the time and place, everything else will follow.

Who and Where?

So, look at your hen party guests – where do they live? Would they be willing to travel? Do any of them have kids or weekend commitments that mean a non-local party would rule them out entirely? If your guests are all clustered around a certain city, it’s best to do it there or  somewhere that’s easy to get to from there. If people are scattered all over the place, choose somewhere that’s local to you or the bride or to people that would find it difficult to travel. If you suspect that someone will flake out even if it’s on their doorstep, then don’t bother having it near them! But if there are people who can be relied on as long as it’s local, make it easy for them. Basically plan so that you get the maximum possible attendance.


Next is the question of when – you really need a date in mind that guests need to write in their diaries NOW. When sending out the first few e-mails to the guests, it’s OK to give them a couple of options for when the party will be, then to choose the most popular one but asking a question like “when’s everyone available?” will lead to heartache and complicated spreadsheets. Best to tell them, not ask.


Now onto the fun bits! What’s your theme going to be? What does your bride like? Is it going to be lairy or quiet and sophisticated? A wild night of drinking or a weekend in the countryside? You know the bride better than anyone else – that’s why you have the job! Pick some things she might like and be confident about it.


Once you have the general idea, think about specific activities. Don’t overload the day or weekend or you’ll be stressed and rushing the group from one thing to the next. If you’re having a city-based weekend try and keep activities close together so you can walk from one to the next. You don’t want to be herding bachelorettes onto public transport or flagging down taxis too much. Keep the structure simple and build in plenty of time for relaxing, chatting and eating.

Help needed

Next, enlist the help of the other bachelorettes. Want to do a treasure hunt? Delegate someone else to organize it. Need to collect money in advance for a meal or activity? Ask someone who’s good with cash to do that bit. You are the creative mastermind and it’s best not to get bogged down in the finer details of it all.

Book it

Then start booking! Book all the classes, accommodation and restaurants you need. If clubs let you reserve areas for free, do that too. Just try and have as much sorted out before the day as you can and double check it all the week before. Then go and have fun – no-one will ever suspect that you had no clue how to do a bachelorette party.

About the author

Hiya. I’m Gaynor – Hen Party planner extraordinaire.

A few years ago my best mate Sally asked me to be her bridesmaid. With that came the responsibility of organising the Hen Do which was an exciting but slightly daunting prospect. I had a reputation as a bit of a party girl so the expectations were high. The challenge was the budget – there wasn’t one! But with a bit of improvisation and a lot of imagination I managed to pull it off.

The success of the night was mainly due to the unique and fun Hen Party Games I’d organised to get everyone interacting and laughing. On this site I’ll share some of the best ones I’ve discovered over the years.

Enjoy x

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